How to help a child who is crying and having a tantrum control their emotions

From 24 months onwards, children enter a stage where their ego becomes increasingly stronger and they try not to lose their initiative and autonomy . To get what you want or to do what you want , you express yourself strongly and forcefully.

However , because language and cognitive development do not increase as much as a child's ego becomes stronger , it may be too early for them to express what they want in words or judge whether what they are doing is right or wrong .

That's why children throw tantrums and endlessly say things that adults think are absolutely ridiculous .

"It's natural that you don't understand this type of tantrum, but any child can go through it, and it comes unconditionally like puberty. It's because the child is still immature and young."

I think it would be good if you think about it and act accordingly .

And this is the time when a child begins to learn behaviors to adapt well to society .

“It’s time for me to guide and educate my child’s behavior.”

I hope you will think about it .

<If your child shows aggressive behavior by crying, blowing, or throwing a tantrum >

• First , it appears that the child needs help from a caregiver in terms of his or her desire to control every situation as he or she wants or to control his or her emotions when angry .

• Second , since the child is still clumsy and has no concept of what to do in any situation , it may be necessary to set rules .

• Third , no child can communicate when their emotions are strong and they are already angry . So, I can't tell you exactly from the story , but I think it would be good to talk more about how to discipline him depending on the situation .

Especially if your child throws a tantrum outside, you may feel embarrassed and embarrassed . You may be wondering whether you should calm him down or discipline him firmly .

And children don't listen or change all at once . So, let me introduce you to a few ways to help your child change little by little .

< How to deal with it >

• If there are things that can be blocked before a tantrum occurs, please block them first.
• Tantrums can become especially severe when children are hungry , sleepy , or when they are going to an unfamiliar place for the first time because they want to get their parents' attention . If you know your child's temperament or life rhythm , it would be a good idea to prevent tantrums before they occur by taking a nap or eating in advance , or avoiding going to unfamiliar places as much as possible.

• Since your child's tantrums may not improve immediately , it would be a good idea to discipline your child with consistent rules and avoid situations outside where your child is having a hard time until the tantrums gradually improve . This goes without saying , but before your child gets upset by being stubborn about something , draw his or her attention with a food or toy that your child likes , and block others from doing what your child wants to do first . For example , please do not ride the elevator with other people, but let your child ride alone . Alternatively , you can wait for a while until no one else opens the door and then go out with your child .

• Second, before entering a situation, tell your child the rules .
• This will probably be easier if there are rules at home and discipline is implemented consistently . For example , some doors may be safe for children to open from the outside , while others may be dangerous for children to open . Aren't there sometimes times when a child can open it , and sometimes not ? If what can and cannot be done depends on the situation , there is a very high possibility that the child will throw a tantrum if things do not go as he or she wants . In that case , “ You can’t use big doors because they are dangerous .” “ 00 will open it ” and just set the rules . And then you start practicing to strictly follow the rules set by your parents . Of course , this does not mean that the child will not be able to do it for the rest of his life , but it would be good to consistently behave like this until the child is able to comply with the rules , understand the situation, and control his own emotions .

• Third, help them regulate their emotions in public .
• If a child is suddenly introduced to a rule that wasn't there before , he or she may not understand and will probably be upset at first . In that case , just pick up the child and leave the area . If a tantrum has already started, it is impossible to have a conversation , and people around you may also be harmed . And it can be difficult to create a situation where your child can control his or her emotions right then and there . Then, there is a higher chance that things will go as the child wants .

• So , I think it is necessary to quickly take the child to a place where there are no people , and then keep a safe distance from the child so that the child can calm down , and watch over him for a while . “ You can’t use big doors because they’re dangerous .” Instead, should we go over there and open the elevator door later ?” And instead, tell your child what he can do . When your emotions are too strong, wait a little while and say , “ Instead , would you please go home and open the door for me ?” Shall we go see 00 ?” And keep telling your child what he or she can do to help him or her transition . If your child is unable to control his or her emotions and is having a hard time , hug him/her tightly and say firmly , “ You must be very upset , but you can’t do this because 00 is dangerous . ” In this way, it would be good if you could help your child control his / her emotions by helping him/her handle his/her angry feelings .

• As I mentioned at the beginning , the process of letting go of your emotions or creating and following rules can be easier to do at home than outside . Therefore, we recommend that you first establish rules that your child must follow at home , and that all caregivers who look after your child practice following the rules consistently .

Today we'll talk about what to do when your child is having a tantrum outside.

I talked about it .

You may have been frustrated and had a hard time going through a tantrum .

Help your child grow into a healthy child who can control themselves well.

Please stay tuned .