Please understand and support your child's emotional regulation step by step.

Early childhood is a crucial period for children as they begin to navigate social life and learn to experience and express a wide range of emotions. During this period, it's common for children to become overwhelmed by emotions like frustration, anger, and sadness, leading to emotional outbursts. Therefore, adults must provide appropriate support to help these children understand and manage these emotions in a healthy way.

Children's ability to regulate their emotions develops in stages , and support tailored to each stage is needed. Providing this support has a significant impact on the child's social relationships, learning ability, and mental health.

 

What are the stages of emotion regulation, and how can adults help?

Emotion regulation develops gradually, from the early stages, when children need complete adult assistance, to the stages where they can recognize their own emotions and independently regulate them. The kind of support adults can provide varies at each stage. Let's discuss the characteristics of each stage and effective support strategies.

Stage 1> Stage where adults must help regulate emotions

Children at this stage lack the ability to regulate their emotions on their own and rely entirely on adults . Have you ever hugged your child tightly and comforted them with, "Oh, I'm so sorry you're upset?" An adult's empathy and warm comfort can help a child calm down.

Please help me with this!

Maintain an empathetic attitude: It's important to acknowledge your child's feelings and show empathy. Reflect your child's feelings verbally, such as, "I see you're very upset."

- Physical contact: Hugging or patting your child in a soft voice can provide a sense of security. Keep in mind that some children may be averse to physical contact, depending on their temperament.

Non-physical contact methods: If your child is reluctant to receive physical contact, suggest alternative behaviors they can engage in. For example, offer them various methods, such as hugging a favorite stuffed animal or wrapping a blanket around their body. Alternatively, sit a short distance away and observe them in a calm, relaxed atmosphere until they calm down.

 

Step 2> A stage where adults and children participate together

Children at this stage begin to gradually learn to regulate their emotions on their own while practicing emotional regulation with adults .

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- Activities to do together: Try a variety of methods, such as taking deep breaths with your child, pressing hands together, or stretching with your body.

- Use sensory tools: Explore your child's favorite sensory tools together, such as tactile bottles, stress balls, warm water bottles, or their favorite tactile doll, and show them how to use them.

- Practice through play: You can role-play using your favorite doll or animal, or talk about how to regulate your emotions by drawing pictures that express your emotions.

- Repetitive practice: It is important to practice repeatedly so that your child can use the learned method in new situations.

 

Step 3> Visually Presenting Step

Visual aids, such as pictures or charts, help you remember and use emotional regulation techniques you can use.

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- Use Emotion Cards: Use picture cards that express a variety of emotions to help your child recognize and express their current feelings. Clearly understanding your child's emotions is the first step toward emotional regulation!

- Use a "safe space": Show your child a picture or video of a "safe space (Calming Corner)" and encourage them to go to a real space where they can relax and calm their emotions, or create an imaginary space. <What is a Calming Corner? LINK>

Picture Cards: Create a method for each emotional state, show it to your child, and encourage them to choose their own method of regulation. For example, you could include a picture of deep breathing on the "When I'm Angry" card, or a picture of a warm water bottle on the "When I'm Sad" card.

Step 4> Verbal Informative Stage

This is the stage where we help children understand by informing them of their condition and providing specific methods of regulation. The adult's role is crucial in understanding the child's emotions and suggesting appropriate solutions.

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- Use specific language: Describe your child's emotional state and how to manage it, such as, "Your face is red. You seem upset. Let's take a deep breath."

- Short and clear instructions: Use short and clear sentences to maintain focus.

- Timing Instruction: It's important to intervene early, before emotions become heightened. Be sensitive to your child's emotional signals and intervene at the appropriate time .

 

Step 5> Step providing choices

- Introduce your child to various methods and let them choose for themselves. This is the stage where you can help your child learn to proactively regulate their emotions.

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Provide a variety of choices: Use pictures or cards to provide two or three choices. Be sure to prepare a variety of methods that suit your child's interests and situation!

- Guided Choice Questions: Guide your child's choice with simple questions like, "What would you rather do: deep breathing, jumping jacks, or a hug?"

- Respect and encourage choice: It's important to encourage your child to do things independently! Trust your child and support them so they can do it :)

 

Step 6: Recognizing emotions independently

- This is the stage where children are encouraged to recognize their own emotions and choose the necessary strategies on their own.

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- Open-ended questions: Encourage your child to recognize their own emotions and find solutions by asking open-ended questions such as, "What emotions are you feeling right now?" or "What methods would help?"

- Appropriate support: If your child is confused or struggling, guide their thinking by providing visual aids or hints that you have used before.

- Praise and encouragement: Praise and encourage your child's efforts and achievements to build confidence in their ability to regulate their emotions.

 

Step 7 > Self-regulation stage

- The child can recognize his or her own emotions and effectively regulate them without outside help.

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- Keeping an Emotions Journal: Encourage your child to keep an emotions journal to help them recognize and express their emotions. This journal can help them identify emotional patterns and find effective ways to regulate them.

 

Emotion regulation is a crucial developmental task. When children experience frustration or emotional distress, providing appropriate support at each stage can help them better understand and regulate their emotions.

Being able to regulate your emotions goes beyond simply maintaining composure; it helps your child recognize his or her own emotional state and adapt to different situations.

Please take a close look at each step and make sure to find the right method for your child :)

 

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